Catch up with Cate

Just before our New Years adventure into the welsh land I caught up with an old friend of almost twenty years. Wow has it really been that long! I remember Cate as a leggy blonde whose parents were rather religious and as much as they tried Cate wasn't.

She was popular and outgoing, I was moody and shy with a list of issues longer than one of her legs. Yet we still stuck by each other and stayed friends for so long. She was my sleep over buddy when we would watch Dirty Dancing on repeat and sing and jig about secretly wishing we were Jennifer Gray and to dance with Patrick Swayze. Boy could he dance.

It was great to spend more than a few texts or a ten minuet conversation to catch up on everything that we'd missed from each others lives (with no animosity by the way). We both have lead such separate lives for so many years now but find it intriguing hearing about the other one.

For example Cate has been extremely career minded (she gets that from her parents) and has always worked hard but reaped the rewards. I have always been more family focussed and was first to have a child. Though I don't think it will be long before she follows suit for she has finally met Mr. Right for her.

I got to thinking about meeting Mr. Right and how people change for another. I was shocked to hear that my old friend had recently bought a motorbike. How little I knew of her hobbies. When she told me of Mr. Rights extreme sport hobby (off road driving and mechanical obsessions) I couldn't help but ask her if she had taken his hobby on as her own. Not to say that she didn't have hobbies of her own as I know for a fact that she does. But to feel closer to Mr. Right was she embellishing her love of dirt tracks and nuts and bolts to bond with him?

Yes she admitted that without Mr. Rights influence she may not have found her love for the sport also but without his influence she wouldn't have made such great new friends too.

So is there a fine line between your partners hobby then becoming yours? Doo used to like wrestling (yes the WWE type) but I wouldn't dress up in lycra like Nacho Libre , bulk up and enter any competitions just to have something in common with him. I'm not saying that's what Cate did - far from it - but some people do. So when do you draw the line with hobbies and partners? What if it becomes a competition? How far would you go to find participate in your partners hobby no matter how much you didn't like it?

I was really surprised by her new life but I can honestly say I've never seen her happier so for that I am really chuffed for Mr. Right and his hobbies. For if anyone can make my girl smile like that then they are OK with me.

Do you have a hobby in common with your partner? Are you better or worse at it than they?

Take care

Kate

xx