It's all just a bit raw for me.

A very dear friend of mine has announced the separation from her fiancé after five years together. I am totally devastated for her and her two boys (both under two years old) for I know exactly how she is feeling.

I feel a bit of a loss to her however. I don't know how to comfort her and tell her everything will be all right and to say follow your heart not your head etc. Realistically I don't believe in any of those things because of my own situation. I feel fraudulent offering relationship advice in my current situation. (Catch up here and here for my situation). I just don't know what to say.

I find it difficult hearing her heartbreaking worries and tears because it is like opening my diary and reading my own heartbreak, worries and tears. That's probably why we are so close in the first place. We are practically like sisters. In fact I call her my Soul Sister for we are so close that sometimes only we can get each other through.

I know she will be fine for she is much stronger than she gives her self credit. She is a fantastic, energetic mother and has so much to offer. I only want her to be happy and healthy.

I may not be able to offer my soul mate any advice for only she and her fiancé (or ex fiancé) can decipher their future. I just want to be there for her and hope that if she reads this she knows that she is not alone. In fact if anyone reading this has been through or currently going through anything similar to our situations, I am here. I can listen and I may even be able to offer an outsiders opinion which may help see things in different light. I don't have the answers but if we can't turn to each other in times like these, then who can we turn to?

I just wanted you all to know that.

Take care

Kate

xx